Monday, February 25, 2008

Talking about both worlds

Lucas has always been very curious about life and death. Specially death. He got impressed when his grandpa's dog, Rambo, died last year, and would talk about it at every opportunity. He also talks abut my father, the grandpa he never met, who died in 2001. Always in a light way, but always very piercing in his questions. I answer him as best as I can under my beliefs, and in general he accepts it very well. I make sure to tell him that death is natural part in the cycle of life, when our spirit then is free from our bodies to fly to another dimension, where they will proceed his development. I knew he got it when he said "oh, it's like a new game's phase". "Yes!" I said, "kind of, phase one is here, then there's phase two..." If this is how he manages to understand things, so it's ok for me.

Now my older sister is very ill, with a secondary brain cancer, and with no chances of recovery. Obviously he knows about her condition, because I often go visiting her at the hospital, and he sends her drawings - once he even sent her a dove's feather he found in our veranda. I avoid talking to my husband about her in front of him, because things are getting worse, I'm extremely shaken by it when I get home after the visits, and I don't want to give him a bad idea and make him afraid of death. But he knows I'm sad and worried, and yesterday he said she was going to die, and then said, as matter of fact, "it's ok, mom, she'll be with gradpa Delcio and he'll take care of her". That was enough to bring tears to my eyes. What a precious little boy we have at home... Somehow, unoticed, with his little questions and statements, he's the one who's preparing me to say good bye to my sis.

*Image: "The Three Fates", at

3 comentários:

Marcia said...

Aww he does sound like such a sweet boy. It's great that he is displaying such compassion and understanding. He may not quite understand the sorrow of letting someone go that you hold so dear, but he shouldn't have to at his age. Hopefully everything goes as well as possible for you and your sister.

Turtleheart said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your sister. Coming to terms with death is such a difficult aspect of life, I think it is wonderful that you are open to talking with your son about it all. Seems it is helping you as well as teaching him.

Lillette said...

I just wanted to say you are an inspiration.... I am trying to plan how to raise my child in the craft.... im sorry about your sister as well